Remembrance thread

thanks loki for opening this thread

as today is my nans birthday (my mum's mum) she had the irish blood
in her oh things she used to do would curl your hair

now we lost her over 23 years ago now but i know shes with me always
and followers all her grandchildren around watching over us all even though
we are all in our 30's and 40's now

she was a great women who i loved dearly and miss her everyday

her name was GERTRUDE MITILDA HIGGINS (O'NEILL)

and her mums name was MARY JANE FLANNERY
who i actually take after shes my hero she was only 4ft 9 and had 23 children
i get my height from her and i think i get my strength from her and nan plus my mum
we come from a long line of independant strong women

so thanks again loki now i can celebrate her life with all my friends

Hi Kris,

She sounds like she was a very remarkable woman and quite a character.

(((Kris)))

I just want to share that I lost an Aunt this morning. My Aunt Helen, God bless her.......acutally she was one of my Great Aunts, and what a woman she was. So funny, sharp and had a wicked sense of humor. You would have loved her. She was 89......my moms family has quite the longevity. Helen battled Parkinsons for many years and the past 10 or so she became more frail and had to live in an assisted living facility. I could kick myself for not going there last week.......I saw her last about a month ago and though she spoke softly and slowly you could see the spirit in her eyes, she was such a great lady. Helen donated her body to Science.....as did her husband many years ago so there will be no funeral, we will have a memorial next month so that all the friends and family out of State can be here for it.
Say a prayer for my mom if you can, she's pretty sad today, Helen was like her mom.

Gabbie

Gabbie,

I am so very sorry to hear your news, but don't feel guilty about not visiting last week, as a very dear friend is fond of saying, "it wasn't meant to be"

I am sure you will be a great comfort to your mom over the next hard few weeks.

Loki
xx

This afternoon my dad's new car finally arrived and we went to pick it up. I was very happy for him 'cause he was like a kid with a new toy and all proud of himself when we left the car place... on the other hand we had to leave there my mom's old car... I can't believe how much it hurts... If I think about it using my brain I know it's stupid to cry over such a little thing, we went through worse times in the past few months....but I'm not used to feel like this: my heart is taking over my brain, my defense... and it's like loosing another piece of her... I can't stop thinking about her on her car, our trips together....
If I really have to find a positive side (kind of hard right now as I'm running out of tissues....) it's that I can finally remember the good, "normal" part of my life with her. Since I lost her, I've been only able to remember the hell we went through since we found out she was sick, and the nightmare of her last month...
Sorry ladies to throw all this on you, but I'm home by myself... and this thread looked like the right place to come....

And it is the right place to come, that's why we have it Luisa, it's for moments such as these, so we can help one another when things overwhelm us, and it's the littlest of things that set us off.

I can understand your distress, it's another part, another memory of happier times that is now gone, but hold onto that, the happy times you shared, I am sure it's what your Mom would wish you to remember her by, not the illness, you see, no matter what happens, as long as you keep her and the happy times in your heart, not only is it the best place for her to be, but you can pull those happy times forth at any time you wish.

Loki
xx

Thank you Loki, I've been struggling to find those good memories...just like if they were hidden behind the bad ones and out of reach... I guess I'm walking into the right direction :)
I dread the moment I will have to go through her drawers and closets....but it's something that MUST be done.... I know it's not her stuff keeping her here... see! I'm trying to listen to my brain now

Its still early days, Lu. You are still getting over the trauma of your Mothers sickness and her passing. When your grief eases, all the good memories will flood back.
Please just think of this. Your Mother is still with you...you just can't see her. When your heart settles, you will feel her near

(((Luisa)))
I know the pain you are going thru right now...I experienced it when my dad passed. It's still fresh in your mind and what Rebel has said is so very true. In time it will get easier, and you will feel her with you. My dad passed 18 yrs ago and not a day goes by that I don't miss him or talk to him, I know he's with me in spirit.
Just know we are here for you to listen any time.

hi luisa just wanted to send my love to you
and just reinstate what gabbie and rebel have said

where always here for you

A big hug to you ladies, right from the heart... I love to be back!
Thank you very much, I know what you all wrote is true... sometimes it feels easier, sometimes it's harder... plus here I have to be the taugh one, for my brother and my dad... It's nice to have a place to come to in times of need! Thanks again!

4 years ago, to this very day, my older brother who was 49 at the time, collapsed and died in work, he was dead before he hit the floor, it seemed the arteries to his heart were blocked, non of us, even him was aware there was anything wrong him him.

These 4 years have been hard, as his widow, my sister in law hasn't done anything with his ashes, so Mum, my sister and I have always taken flowers the the Park where he was based, where they planted a Welsh Mountain Ash Tree in his memory, and they also placed a bench nearby with a plaque on it,

Today has been made easier by the fact she has now arranged to have his ashes interred in the local Cemetary, so at least we will somewhere to go properly now and visit and take flowers.

So on Tuesday, I can finally say a proper goodbye to him, and may he rest in peace.

your in my thoughts loki but you know hes always around and in your heart

but its nice to have a spot to go to morn and to talk to them

sending you loving hugs


kris
xxxxooooo

Big hugs to you Loki - it's never easy, but hopefully this will give you some sort of closure. Having been there recently myself, I'm sending extra hugs your way.

Lea
xx

I am so very upset right now. We just got back from the wake of our friends daughter. She was only 35. They are some of the nicest people we know, but their daughter was depressed and took many unfortunate paths. But, they always were there for her and it seemed many times things were going to be all right. She leaves behind a daughter 15, a daughter 13 and a son about 5. So, so sad. This had to be one of the hardest wakes I've ever been too. It not right....... Parent are never supposed to bury their children.

So sorry Sidney, hugs to you. And you're right, parent's shouldn't have to do that.

Thinking good thoughts for everyone.

Lea

Sidney,

Nothing I can say is going to make you feel better right now at such a tragic loss, I remember when my brother passed, my dad said those words too.

But we are thinking of you and your friends family, and will keep you all in our prayers.


Loki
xx

"Et l'absence est venue
poser ses grandes ailes
dans l'atelier muet
où tu ne sera plus.
Tu es partie sans moi,
je reste seule sans toi
et sans cet amour infini.
Tu n'étais même pas ma mère,
mais j'étais devenue ta fille
peu à peu...
Voilà tu es partie
c'est fou ce qu'ils me manquent
tout ces petits instants
qui n'étaient rien qu'à nous.
Et l'absence est venue
peser sur ma détresse
dans l'atelier désert
où restent tes outils.
Rien ne te remplacera
ni mes futurs bonheurs
ni mon travail
ni le beau temps...
Je suis démunie comme une fille
qui vient de perdre sa maman,
et je suis malheureuse..."

Vivi, ton ange est toujours là bien au chaud dans ton coeur. Elle veille sur toi et guide tes mains, elle est dans chacune de tes créations.